Although it may not happen often enough, “Good people” do cross our paths. That’s right, genuine, honest, FRIENDLY, good hearted, HAPPY, down to earth people with no ulterior motive but to be a part of your life, share and inspire you.
There are those who will judge the value of their life and success by the number of Facebook or Twitter friends. While others choose more wisely and surround themselves with quality people who bring joy, laughter and are willing to contribute to a two way friendship.
My life recently intersected with such an individual.
Under the oddest and unlikely of circumstances, both of us dealing with difficult issues in our lives, here’s someone who crosses my path and has completely proven me wrong. I had been wondering “Where have all the GOOD, honest and decent people gone”? I even started to believe that men AND women are just plain selfish, lazy and don’t care about owning their decisions or actions.
How refreshing to be proven wrong to find people in this world who will not run away from their problems and point fingers at others.
In a desire to find happiness and live an honest life to the fullest, my friend is choosing to do what, frankly, most avoid. When two people find they no longer bring joy to each other or they have little in common, it seems people would rather stay in an unhappy situation, trapped in an emotional jail because they are afraid of the unknown or being alone. It takes a much stronger individual to make the hard decision and seek change.
Unfortunately, it’s more common than we’d like to admit. People will choose to stay in a relationship (personally and professionally) at the cost of their own happiness for the ‘sake of their children”, financial burden, or fear. We all know someone who has gone through a divorce or separation which was so degrading, mean and hurtful. It is shameful to witness humans act with callous, hate and revenge towards the same person they once loved and committed to share the rest of their life with, in sickness and in health, richer or poorer. Even when one party is acting selfish and behaving with such evil, it is a relief that the other person avoids lowering their standards and remains honorable and acts with integrity.
Personally and professionally, how often do we see people when faced with a situation which seems unfair or turns their world upside down, lash back because of their ego? All logic seems to disappear. It takes a courageous person to check their ego and respond in a productive manner that is EFFECTIVE versus being right…
You hear all the time that life is short. Yes, life can be like a boxing match where you win some and you lose some.
The important thing is to stay in the match and keep fighting… BUT with grace, kindness and self respect. No dirty punches because you’ll forever be remembered for that one cheap shot…
No matter how difficult the road ahead may seem, congratulations to those willing to step up, take a chance and face their situation full on.
Life can be about waiting for the storm to pass… But wouldn’t you want to learn to dance in the rain instead?
~ Lianne