I Would Have Loved To Have Met Her…

April 22nd, 2012


More Than Crockett & Tubbs

March 1st, 2012

Miami… What a Fascinating and FUN place to people watch!

I realize the main reason both men and women are drawn to Miami for a short recharge or week long vacation spot is for a little fun in the sun.  And the good news is that you don’t have to wait very long before the physical, mental and emotional transformation into vacation mode takes over.  It truly is instantaneous as you step off the plane and the first burst of humidity hits your skin.  Now, before I share some cultural insights 🙂 let me clarify that anyone can enjoy the beautiful and educational sights of Miami.  But to truly indulge and soak up all that this wonderful city has to offer, knowing Benjamin and having connections will make a significance difference in HOW you experience this hot and happening city… And I don’t mean just weather hot… What happens in Miami stays in Miami.

Take this past weekend.  Whether you were strolling down Lincoln Road, lying at the beach or hotel pool or simply enjoying an event at the South Beach Food and Wine Show, one would have made this observation.  The number of flat stomach, tight bottomed and perfect breasted women in Miami out number the rest of us average females by about 50:1.  Lol!  Now please don’t judge and think I’m jealous or exaggerating.  I, sincerely, am in awe of these beautiful creatures as they strut around in their beautiful bikinis or body hugging outfits.  Particular attention was in fact paid to the Miami Hem lines, a fashion statement in itself. Hem lines abruptly stop right under the glutes, perfectly cupping the tush.  And it makes no difference if you are sporting a white see through striped dress with 6″ heels or happen to be one of the poor souls that unfortunately forgot their pants to be left wearing only a shirt for the night.

It’s a pretty common fact that all women spend a considerable amount of time primping before heading out.  I’m definitely guilty of taking an hour to get ready… Apparently 55 min longer than my naturally sexy man would prefer 🙂  But, regardless of the time spent in front of a mirror, most women know they aren’t clockin’ in at 110lbs with a 32D-22-32 physique.   So, the question that begs to be asked is why do these real women, who truly are beautiful, morph into sausages by squeezing into outfits 2-3 sizes too small :/

Don’t misinterpret what I’m saying.  My love for clothes runs as deep as the next woman.  I myself spent hours strategically packing the perfect outfits so I could look and feel sexy all weekend next to my sweetheart.  Sure I ended up with a suitcase that tipped the scale and cost an extra $100 on my American Airlines flight.  But I think it was worth it…

It’s not just the tourists but 99.9% of the locals that work in retail, clubs or restaurants have made alterations to their bodies.  As a vertically challenged individual, my eyes come to rest at a height where I spent 4 days checking out womens’ racks.  The natural female body is absolutely beautiful and sensual with all its curves and softness, in whatever shape and size.  It really is a shame that people don’t accept their bodies for what they are naturally born with.

So it is ironic, that it was actually the men that caught my attention more than the women. The men that these women sidle up to exhibit zero desire to keep up with any fashion sense and actually dress at night as if they are still at the beach.  If they do “dress up” and throw on a Button down or a T-shirt with jeans, their tops snug their beer bellies reinforcing that once men over 30 have a woman, there isn’t a need to stay in shape.  Most of the men have soft, cuddly bodies, but more than compensate with their wallet.

I don’t believe my observations are unfair despite being isolated to South Beach, the Fontainebleau Hotel and LIV nightclub areas.  Liv, by the way, is not only the hottest nightclub on the planet, but if you somehow manage to get inside the doors, you and your friend can secure a table for a small $2,500 donation AND rub elbows with an A-lister or local celebrity.  Just last Friday, a few of the Dolphin boys hung out in their $15k booth on the dance floor, sporting their jerseys (it must have been laundry day) enjoying bottle service and listening to house beats by incredible DJs like Max Vangeli.  Even though my several $18 watered down drinks didn’t so much as bring on a buzz, the music truly was insane… Making the hours on the dance floor with a rare guy that has rhythm, quite memorable.

So, whether you are down in Miami looking for some fun in the sun or lucky enough to be on a “business trip”, you will return home enlightened and more cultured.  But, be warned… Do not forget to pack your sunglasses.  This is the only way to freely observe your surroundings without getting caught staring, while avoiding possible whiplash 🙂

Another Way To Lose Weight…

January 31st, 2012

The first month of 2012 has quickly come and gone… And many of us vowed that this year, would be THE year, to establish a regular routine of eating well, consistent exercise and not getting stressed out over small things.  If I told you there was a solution that wouldn’t cost you a single penny, could be integrated into your normal day and wasn’t painful, would you believe me?

Well, its so simple that it can’t be true, can it?  Believe it or not, breathing correctly can help you hit all of your New Year’s resolution goals.  Sounds silly.  But read on…

Think back to the last time something or someone stressed you out.  Your body automatically went into survival mode where your muscles tensed up and your breathing became shallow.   Not needing to state the obvious, but I will.  We need oxygen to live.  However, given our environment today and the lifestyles we lead:  Fast paced, less physical activity, dependency on technology, and more pollution in the air, our bodies carry less oxygen and are less efficient in using O2 to metabolize fats and remove harmful and often deadly toxins.

Studies reveal that increasing one’s supply of oxygen through the simple act of deep breathing, can help one increase the body’s ability to burn fat better than some exercises.  In addition, the increased circulation of oxygen throughout the body supports the increased absorption of nutrients through the intestinal walls while the conversion of toxins into gases, can be expelled by the body more efficiently.

What does this all mean?  Well if you follow that there are many benefits to having more oxygen flow through your body… My advice is to discover more ways to laugh.  That’s right. Laugh more!  Don’t let some schmuck at work or in your personal life take you down.  Laughing not only produces those “feel-good” endorphins (the same ones released during a wonderful, sensual intimate encounter) 😉  but can boost your immune system and relieve stress by relaxing your muscles and making you feel good.

If you don’t believe me, read this article written by someone who knows how to laugh at himself and has subsequently made thousands of others laugh with him… Thank you Daniel Sherman!

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3153/Hilarious-Yoga-Mat-for-Sale-Ad-on-Craigslist.html

Coconut Oil… Have You Tried It?

November 6th, 2011

Each of us has cancer cells in our bodies.  But, it is our immune system’s job to control and ensure we are not diagnosed with this deadly disease.

50% of the fatty acids in Coconut Oil is Lauric Acid. Without getting too technical, Lauric Acid is a medium chain fatty acid (MCFA) which helps the body wipe out disease causing germs, thus helping your immune system.  When too many microbes invade the body, the immune system becomes weak and the white blood cells cannot fight back, triggering the development of cancer cells.

Coconut Oil has many unique properties providing many health benefits. To name a few:

–        Coconut oil helps the body heal and repair faster, supporting and enhancing immune system functions

–        Has Antimicrobial properties that prevents the spread of breast, colon and other cancer cells

–        Kills viruses that cause mononucleosis, hepatitis C. measles, herpes, AIDS

–        Kills bacteria that causes throat infections, food poisoning, urinary tract infections, gonorrhea

–        Kills fungi and yeast that causes candida, jock itch, ringworm, athlete’s foot, diaper rash

–        Also referred to as the “low fat” fat, Coconut Oil acts like a carbohydrate.  It is not stored like other fats.  Rather it is quickly broken down in the liver and used as quick energy to enhance physical and athletic performance.

A few things to ponder…

  1. Could the Asian Pacific population be onto something?  They have used Coconut oil for food and medicine for thousands of years
  2. Deaths due to heart disease tripled when India switched from coconut oil to partially hydrogenated soybean oil
  3. With the Soft Drink Giants of the World Launching Various Coconut Water Beverages into the Mass Market, Does this support/validate the benefits of Lauric Acid?

Magic Bullet?  With the above claims and long history of use by various cultures, perhaps consider adding Coconut Oil to your next shopping list?

And if you are still skeptical, the next time you are enjoying a 60-90 minute massage at the hands of a talented therapist, ask him/her to use coconut oil.  An added bonus to your massage will be a coconut oil skin treatment that will soften and moisturize your skin, preventing wrinkling, sagging, and age spots.  🙂

Rocks Or Something More?

October 17th, 2011

For thousands of years, energy healing by crystals, gems or stones has been a highly debated point of discussion. On one side, particularly those of religious doctrine, view crystal healing as complete nonsense. On the other side, those that believe we inhabit various energy systems which are interconnected to our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical well-being, consider this alternative healing technique as real as any orthodox medicine.

Crystal healing has not only been used by different cultures and religions since the ancient times, but has crept into our society as a more acceptable method of healing since the 1990s.  Traditionally, the East treats the person, while the West treats the disease.  However, with the increasing popularity of acupuncture and even yoga, the integration of body, breathe and mind, the modern Western world is more accepting of chakras, the 7 energy centers that allow energy to flow from one area of the body to another.  When someone is ill, physically, mentally or emotionally, these chakras are considered “blocked”.  To heal is to restore balance and alignment to the chakras, which focuses holistically on a person instead of the individual physical symptoms.

Crystals are highly powerful as they possess unique vibrations as a result of their color, chemical, atomical and outer makeup. Thousands of crystals, gems and stones are linked to distinct symptoms and conditions, which are believed to interact and alter our electromagnetic fields as they absorb, reflect, balance, amplify and clear energies.  In essence, they serve to modify our healing energies.

Today, the use of crystals, gems and stones as an alternative healing technique is recommended to compliment traditional medical treatments.  Perhaps the next time you are suffering from ongoing nightmares or digestion problems consider purchasing a Citrine stone.  Or if a loved one is fighting leukemia, find a Bloodstone or Sapphire, both known to shrink tumors.  Just remember to clean or clear your crystals/stones as soon as they are in your possession 🙂

Before It’s Too Late…

October 1st, 2011

There are many of us that have been lucky, thus far, and have not personally been diagnosed with cancer. However, we have or are experiencing much pain and suffering, just in a different form.  While our loved ones are living through the disease, we show our love and support as best that we know how and will often be part of the decision making process regarding treatments or other key events… Sometimes on matters that no person should ever have to make.

An email arrived Tuesday from a wonderful friend, living on the other side of the world, who shared that a short 30 days ago, his girlfriend’s ovarian cancer had returned only to have spread to her Lymphatic system.  He put his work on hold to stay close to her and was having a very difficult time watching her body deteriorate before his eyes.  Another email arrived yesterday sharing that a sudden turn of events just happened and his girlfriend’s fight would soon be over… within days.  He was asked if there was any family or friends that should be notified to say their last good byes and that the decision to let her go comfortably or insert a tube through her throat into her lung which might give her 2-3 more days max, needed to be made.   

His email was asking for my advice and what he should do… He was torn between letting her go comfortably and yet feeling selfish because he wasn’t ready yet.  He wanted to know what I would do if this was my decision?  

What does one say???
 
I heard a song last night by John Mayer “Say” that seems, perhaps, appropriate…

Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You’d better know that in the end
It’s better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say

Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open

Say What You Need To Say

All my love and positive energy goes out to Nelson during this difficult time…

Hurricane Irene… Just one Perspective

August 28th, 2011

It has been fascinating to observe the vast array of emotions, reactions and attitudes that surfaced during the Hurricane Irene situation.  Not only of the people that this hurricane immediately affected but even the people watching from other States or countries.  Take for instance the days leading up to NYC completely shutting down.  People were encouraged to prepare for the worst just in case they were stranded with no power, water and food.  You had 2 camps of people.  The first did their due diligence and stocked up on flashlights, batteries, candles, water and food amongst other supplies. The second group appeared not to be phased as if Irene was a regular occurrence and why would you bother to stock up for a day of inconvenience?  Their judgmental attitude, actually made them sound like they were back in Junior High offering nothing of value except uncomfortable peer pressure.  

People prepared their homes and families in different degrees.   Ultimately, where someone lived played the biggest factor.  By 7am Sat morning, the Home Depot located in the coastal neighborhood of CT was jammed packed with pick up trucks filled to the max with sheets of plywood, sand and salt bags, batteries and other necessary supplies.  Obviously the few families that ignored the mandatory evacuation and signed papers releasing the city from any liability, were prepared to duke it out with Irene.   Those living further in land rushed to secure their outside furniture, lawn ornaments and clean out their roof troughs and drain pipes.  

Family and friends, living outside the Hurricane’s path, proceeded to flood the phone lines Sat am trying to find out the status and scoop of the situation.  It is reassuring to know during these horrific times who your friends are.  However, it was also interesting that these same people who wanted to show their concern and support actually contributed to the stress and mayhem that ensued.  With only the news or Internet feeding their knowledge, either they would jump to conclusions and state “what they would do” if they were in your shoes or they were completely oblivious to how negative and distracting their concerned phone calls and opinions were. People thought they were delivering good news when they repeated what they saw on the news… It’s only a Category 1, or the winds are only at 65mph… 

Millions of unfortunate homes are without power today and the Flash flooding has just started to take their victims.  The “invincible” Americans that think we all over reacted have started to leave the safety of their homes and take to the streets.  Not only are they now floating down a river somewhere because they thought they were just driving through a 6″ puddle, but they are selfishly risking the lives of many who have to rescue them.  We already lost a New Jersey rescue worker because he had to go after one of these selfish people.

Now that the hurricane has come and gone, many NYC people are publically booing that the city over reacted and there was nothing to worry about.  I guess the abundance of parties, all day and night, in the city and sold out liquor stores doesn’t accurately represent the inconvenience they were put through.  No sooner than 30 min after the hurricane passed through, people are frolicking in the water as if they were on vacation in Hawaii.  

The damage is not even close to being over.  The hurricane is hours gone and is now the status of a tropical storm.  However, the rain and winds continue to be destructive and have picked up in speed so much that trees are continuing to be snapped.  For those millions of homes without power, it may be several days before you  will be able to enjoy a working fridge and freezer.  In the meantime, once you are able to return to your home, hold your nose as you proceed to throw out all the spoiled food.  Power will only be restored when the winds die down and workers are able to safely stand on their vehicle ladders without the possibilty of being swept away.  I doubt even the “invincibles” would climb that ladder.

The center of the universe may have gotten away with limited damage but the rest of NY State, the New England area and Canada is still dealing with the storm.  

Personally, i think its always better to be over prepared then under.  Hats off  and my complete respect to the government and power officials who did all they could to prepare us for this storm.  With the mandatory evacuations, mass transit shutdowns, highway closures and curfews, we were able to minimize damage and loss of life.  For those we did lose, our thoughts are with you and your families.

Now the clean up starts…

Do You Look To The Heavens?

July 18th, 2011

Ok so I know I just wrote a piece about starting new and I know you couldn’t hear my tone but I’m sure you sensed the excitement and positivity in my writing.  And I would love to write about how all my new plans came to fruition and I’m  happy-go-lucky… But you know how life goes… A couple of more set-backs.

So I’m coming out a dark and angry period and trying to switch my mind set.  I don’t know where you stand with this but are you a spiritual person?  Does praying to God or any higher power make you feel better or aid in your journey?I used too but I just felt that I was being abandoned and forgotten.  To be honest I’m the type of person to drop my friends for being absent since why do need someone to suck my energy if they are not willing to return the favour?

Reading some of these article it is interesting to see what prayer can do.  I’m not trying to write this to convert anyone but I can see how praying is a lot like meditation.  I guess life is already so hard enough it might be nice to unload some of our burdens.  But I find it hard when there are no changes or no answers.

ScienceDaily (June 18, 2009) — Health and religion have always been intertwined, most obviously through prayer on behalf of the sick. Does intercessory prayer for sick people actually help heal them? For thousands of years some people have believed so. But new Brandeis University research in the Journal of Religion this month shows that over the last four decades, medical studies of intercessory prayer—the prayer of strangers at a distance—actually say more about the scientists conducting the studies than about the power of prayer to heal.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/06/090617154401.htm

Maybe someone reading this can share what they think of these studies?  When you find the load too heavy, how do you deal with it?

Welcome any and all advice…

~ Anonymous

Ever Been In A Rut Before?

July 7th, 2011

I’m trying to turn a leaf and start new.  It gets comfortable, familiar and hard to want to come out of.  Well I’m letting the world know I’m ready to come back out, and ready to face my fears.

Are you currently overcoming something that has got you hiding from the world?

This quote truly helps inspire me to take back the control.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie

Fear can motivate and propel us forward, or it can paralyze and immobilize us. When we are in a state of paralyzing fear, it will stop us dead in our tracks. Yet, when we step forward in action, our anxiety eases. We begin to pay attention to what’s actually going on instead of being trapped in fearful speculation.

So world here I come to conquer one of my fears.

I’ll keep you posted on how it goes…

~ Anonymous

Hello? Is Anyone Out There?

May 30th, 2011

Today, being Memorial Day, we want to acknowledge all the men and women who’ve provided us the freedoms we enjoy.  And yet this is how we choose to express this privilege?

With the advancement of technology and common acceptance of texting, instant messaging, and email as forms of faster modes of communication, people no longer choose the personal touch of in-person interaction or phone calls.  People are content starting new relationships, business or personal, by emails and texting without even thinking twice.

I completely understand that the pace of life today is faster than 10-20 years ago.   So, hand writing a note or even wishing a friend Happy Birthday over the phone is unheard of when you can simply send the same wish via Face Book.  No need to spend time catching up…  Totally admit there are circumstances where you need to be accessible for business, wife/partner or children, so texting is convenient/legitimate when you’re in a meeting or in a spot where it is too noisy to hear.  In these cases, it is polite to acknowledge receipt of a message or despite being busy you can quickly respond.

Today’s issue may lie in that people, of all ages, but specifically the younger generation, choose to hide behind the new forms of technology as their primary method of communication.  They forego the type of interaction that actually builds lasting, genuine quality “relationships” because they don’t see the value.  If you meet someone, enjoy their conversation but then decide that person is no longer interesting, it’s far easier to ignore their texts/emails by giving the universal sign that you are done with them and have moved on.

It is interesting that we wouldn’t discipline our children through a text or email.  Why?  Our children deserve the emotional investment of time and the gift of interaction: mental, emotional and physical.  So why do we treat our adult relationships with such disrespect and aloofness?  It really speaks to the fall of our society.  We literally are failing as a species to leverage the skills and personality traits that separate us and give us an advantage over our hairy primate friends.

It is appalling to see people in the work environment sit 5’ from each other, and yet engage in emails back and forth endlessly trying to solve an issue.  Instead, wouldn’t it be easier and more effective to simple walk into each other’s office and have a healthy and often shorter conversation face to face? Talking in person, you hear inflections, you read facial expressions and body language and can elaborate in more detail, without the too often misunderstandings that stem from emails.  Has our society become so lazy and people physically unfit that it’s easier to let your fingers move instead of your feet?

Along with people resorting to texting or instant messaging comes a whole host of other nastiness:

  1. People are kidding only themselves when they respond with a few quick words/sentences and move on mentally… Thinking they aren’t being rude to the other person.
  2. Using technology today means people don’t have to be quality individuals.  No need to be polite, mannered or show respect for others.   Just answer and move on.
  3. Boys and Girls (Can’t really use the word Men and Women in this case since the behavior is extremely immature) will send out to their contact list the same message to see who responds.  Maybe it’s when they are bored or hoping to get laid, since they aren’t too discerning.  Their ego is satisfied confirming they have options and friends.
  4. People highly mistaken their # of Phone or Face Book contacts for friends.  Quantity vs. Quality.
  5. The on-going dilemma… When do you cross the line into being rude if you don’t respond to a text or IM?  Should you respond right away if you read a text?  Or can you wait till the end of the day?
  6. The most disgusting use of modern technology is when people are too chicken to deal with the consequences of a situation or their actions so they hide behind texting/emails.  Maybe they have to cancel on someone or even break up…  Or heaven forbid they either don’t want to or know how to respond, so they simply ignore the text/email.

I could continue but I think you get the point.

It truly is a shame that we don’t invest more quality time in each other and stop taking each other for granted.  As we get older, we realize that honest and genuine people are increasingly hard to find.  Or is it that the # of good people in the world is still the same?  We simply don’t care about taking the time to get to know each other because it takes more than 140 characters.

Getting to know someone means you actually have to invest of yourself, which means taking time.

Meeting people as we move through life, cherishing friendships and being respectful of those that invest in you… IS what Life is all about.

Trust me… Before it is too late.