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Such a Thing as Too Many Friends?

Saturday, April 13th, 2013

Most recently I had someone tell me they didn’t want to be my friend… WOW.

As a 40 something year old, I was insulted and quite taken back.  Never in all my life have I ever been accused of being a “stalker” for the opposite sex, never mind  someone of the same sex. LOL!  What was her reason?  Apparently I left too many messages for my “newfound” friend…  I made her feel uncomfortable.  Hmmmm.

Now, I appreciate her honesty.  I can even admit that, maybe, it took some effort and courage on her part to admit she didn’t see us as friends.   However, it got me thinking…

First, I don’t care, to be honest, that she doesn’t want to be friends.  Her loss.  Sometimes you meet people, romantic or platonic, and there’s no connection.  That’s ok.  Not everyone will like you.

Second, as we get older and start meeting new people, both personally and professionally, isn’t it a shame we are shocked when we stumble upon a “Good” person.  Unfortunately, my experience is that many people are too caught up in their own lives to appreciate one another.  More times than not, people can be selfish, dishonest or they have ulterior motives for why they want to be friends with you.

Lastly, since expanding my network of childhood friends, I have grown increasingly picky with who my close friends are. Reminds me of a Feb 24 sermon I recently heard from Pastor David Blunt from Church on the Rock, St Peters, MO.  He shared his point of view about the importance of friendships… “Our friends frame our world and friends determine our future.”  “We choose who our friends are because they are critical to our future” and ultimately reflect who we are: Esteem, Evaluate, Eliminate, Expand and Expect.

But, choosing quality over quantity doesn’t mean you have enough people in your life.  Even if you are the President of the United States, you can never have enough friends.  Absolutely stay picky… BUT life IS about meeting new people, making connections and enjoying new experiences.  People come into your life for a reason and come from all different backgrounds, shapes and sizes, jobs and income brackets.  Don’t live life alone…  And PLEEEZE… Don’t misinterpret or be skeptical if someone is kind to you.   And (at the top of my lungs, I shout)… DO NOT automatically assume that people want something from you.  And DO NOT be so arrogant to think they are interested in you more than a friend.  Their gesture is probably just what it seems… They find you interesting and want to simply be your friend.



Sunday, July 1st, 2012

Life throws us curve balls both personally and professionally, just a fact of life.  But in most cases, we always have a choice how we behave or act in a situation. We may not be able to change the outcome, but we can control how we think or feel.

So the next time someone or something is driving you bananas or you’re finally taking control of your life after being in a negative relationship or suffering from an addiction … Remember, you can throw in the towel OR you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face.

Coconut Oil… Have You Tried It?

Sunday, November 6th, 2011

Each of us has cancer cells in our bodies.  But, it is our immune system’s job to control and ensure we are not diagnosed with this deadly disease.

50% of the fatty acids in Coconut Oil is Lauric Acid. Without getting too technical, Lauric Acid is a medium chain fatty acid (MCFA) which helps the body wipe out disease causing germs, thus helping your immune system.  When too many microbes invade the body, the immune system becomes weak and the white blood cells cannot fight back, triggering the development of cancer cells.

Coconut Oil has many unique properties providing many health benefits. To name a few:

–        Coconut oil helps the body heal and repair faster, supporting and enhancing immune system functions

–        Has Antimicrobial properties that prevents the spread of breast, colon and other cancer cells

–        Kills viruses that cause mononucleosis, hepatitis C. measles, herpes, AIDS

–        Kills bacteria that causes throat infections, food poisoning, urinary tract infections, gonorrhea

–        Kills fungi and yeast that causes candida, jock itch, ringworm, athlete’s foot, diaper rash

–        Also referred to as the “low fat” fat, Coconut Oil acts like a carbohydrate.  It is not stored like other fats.  Rather it is quickly broken down in the liver and used as quick energy to enhance physical and athletic performance.

A few things to ponder…

  1. Could the Asian Pacific population be onto something?  They have used Coconut oil for food and medicine for thousands of years
  2. Deaths due to heart disease tripled when India switched from coconut oil to partially hydrogenated soybean oil
  3. With the Soft Drink Giants of the World Launching Various Coconut Water Beverages into the Mass Market, Does this support/validate the benefits of Lauric Acid?

Magic Bullet?  With the above claims and long history of use by various cultures, perhaps consider adding Coconut Oil to your next shopping list?

And if you are still skeptical, the next time you are enjoying a 60-90 minute massage at the hands of a talented therapist, ask him/her to use coconut oil.  An added bonus to your massage will be a coconut oil skin treatment that will soften and moisturize your skin, preventing wrinkling, sagging, and age spots.  🙂

Rocks Or Something More?

Monday, October 17th, 2011

For thousands of years, energy healing by crystals, gems or stones has been a highly debated point of discussion. On one side, particularly those of religious doctrine, view crystal healing as complete nonsense. On the other side, those that believe we inhabit various energy systems which are interconnected to our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical well-being, consider this alternative healing technique as real as any orthodox medicine.

Crystal healing has not only been used by different cultures and religions since the ancient times, but has crept into our society as a more acceptable method of healing since the 1990s.  Traditionally, the East treats the person, while the West treats the disease.  However, with the increasing popularity of acupuncture and even yoga, the integration of body, breathe and mind, the modern Western world is more accepting of chakras, the 7 energy centers that allow energy to flow from one area of the body to another.  When someone is ill, physically, mentally or emotionally, these chakras are considered “blocked”.  To heal is to restore balance and alignment to the chakras, which focuses holistically on a person instead of the individual physical symptoms.

Crystals are highly powerful as they possess unique vibrations as a result of their color, chemical, atomical and outer makeup. Thousands of crystals, gems and stones are linked to distinct symptoms and conditions, which are believed to interact and alter our electromagnetic fields as they absorb, reflect, balance, amplify and clear energies.  In essence, they serve to modify our healing energies.

Today, the use of crystals, gems and stones as an alternative healing technique is recommended to compliment traditional medical treatments.  Perhaps the next time you are suffering from ongoing nightmares or digestion problems consider purchasing a Citrine stone.  Or if a loved one is fighting leukemia, find a Bloodstone or Sapphire, both known to shrink tumors.  Just remember to clean or clear your crystals/stones as soon as they are in your possession 🙂

Hello? Is Anyone Out There?

Monday, May 30th, 2011

Today, being Memorial Day, we want to acknowledge all the men and women who’ve provided us the freedoms we enjoy.  And yet this is how we choose to express this privilege?

With the advancement of technology and common acceptance of texting, instant messaging, and email as forms of faster modes of communication, people no longer choose the personal touch of in-person interaction or phone calls.  People are content starting new relationships, business or personal, by emails and texting without even thinking twice.

I completely understand that the pace of life today is faster than 10-20 years ago.   So, hand writing a note or even wishing a friend Happy Birthday over the phone is unheard of when you can simply send the same wish via Face Book.  No need to spend time catching up…  Totally admit there are circumstances where you need to be accessible for business, wife/partner or children, so texting is convenient/legitimate when you’re in a meeting or in a spot where it is too noisy to hear.  In these cases, it is polite to acknowledge receipt of a message or despite being busy you can quickly respond.

Today’s issue may lie in that people, of all ages, but specifically the younger generation, choose to hide behind the new forms of technology as their primary method of communication.  They forego the type of interaction that actually builds lasting, genuine quality “relationships” because they don’t see the value.  If you meet someone, enjoy their conversation but then decide that person is no longer interesting, it’s far easier to ignore their texts/emails by giving the universal sign that you are done with them and have moved on.

It is interesting that we wouldn’t discipline our children through a text or email.  Why?  Our children deserve the emotional investment of time and the gift of interaction: mental, emotional and physical.  So why do we treat our adult relationships with such disrespect and aloofness?  It really speaks to the fall of our society.  We literally are failing as a species to leverage the skills and personality traits that separate us and give us an advantage over our hairy primate friends.

It is appalling to see people in the work environment sit 5’ from each other, and yet engage in emails back and forth endlessly trying to solve an issue.  Instead, wouldn’t it be easier and more effective to simple walk into each other’s office and have a healthy and often shorter conversation face to face? Talking in person, you hear inflections, you read facial expressions and body language and can elaborate in more detail, without the too often misunderstandings that stem from emails.  Has our society become so lazy and people physically unfit that it’s easier to let your fingers move instead of your feet?

Along with people resorting to texting or instant messaging comes a whole host of other nastiness:

  1. People are kidding only themselves when they respond with a few quick words/sentences and move on mentally… Thinking they aren’t being rude to the other person.
  2. Using technology today means people don’t have to be quality individuals.  No need to be polite, mannered or show respect for others.   Just answer and move on.
  3. Boys and Girls (Can’t really use the word Men and Women in this case since the behavior is extremely immature) will send out to their contact list the same message to see who responds.  Maybe it’s when they are bored or hoping to get laid, since they aren’t too discerning.  Their ego is satisfied confirming they have options and friends.
  4. People highly mistaken their # of Phone or Face Book contacts for friends.  Quantity vs. Quality.
  5. The on-going dilemma… When do you cross the line into being rude if you don’t respond to a text or IM?  Should you respond right away if you read a text?  Or can you wait till the end of the day?
  6. The most disgusting use of modern technology is when people are too chicken to deal with the consequences of a situation or their actions so they hide behind texting/emails.  Maybe they have to cancel on someone or even break up…  Or heaven forbid they either don’t want to or know how to respond, so they simply ignore the text/email.

I could continue but I think you get the point.

It truly is a shame that we don’t invest more quality time in each other and stop taking each other for granted.  As we get older, we realize that honest and genuine people are increasingly hard to find.  Or is it that the # of good people in the world is still the same?  We simply don’t care about taking the time to get to know each other because it takes more than 140 characters.

Getting to know someone means you actually have to invest of yourself, which means taking time.

Meeting people as we move through life, cherishing friendships and being respectful of those that invest in you… IS what Life is all about.

Trust me… Before it is too late.

Must Have Accessory for 2011

Sunday, February 13th, 2011

Its half way through winter for many of us, and the weather has not been kind the past few months.  Forced to choose warmth and comfort over fashion, we’ve been bundled up from head to toe, wearing Gore-Tex boots and comfortable Fleece hats and mitts, normally reserved for hiking or skiing.  Just recently I watched how New Yorkers were being advised on TV to go out and purchase Yak-Trax for their footwear.  These ice grip straps simply slip over their footwear so people can still be fashionable but safe.

This weekend, many people will walk their local shopping malls, quickly flip through the latest fashion magazine while standing in line at the grocery check out lane, all hoping to catch what’s “in”.  Living in cities like NY or LA, the local rage is NYC Fashion Week or the 53rd Grammy Awards.   We get our inspiration on how to dress from different sources.  But, most of us feel more confident knowing what’s stylish and cool by society standards, in hopes we can extend the life of a garment another year, recycle from the depths of our own closets a “still good” piece or resuscitate a vintage or sentimental item.

Attending a few of NYC’s Fashion shows this weekend, all the models looked glam and perfectly made up strutting down the runways with the newest fashion trends.  However, what struck me as comical was no matter how chic one looks wearing the newest color or in fashion tie or jacket, looking angry is not what you want people focusing on.

Personally, regardless of age, shape or gender, garbed in a clean white t-shirt and jeans with a smile on your face is both fashionable and sexy, right next to Vivienne Tam or Betsey Johnson’s latest trends.  So, whether it’s a night out on the town, a friend’s wedding or if you are wanting to camouflage your chemo treatment and hair loss… The one accessory you shouldn’t be caught without is a SMILE.  It doesn’t cost anywhere near the beautiful Amanda Pearl fuzzy Corso Clutch nor will it clash with your outfit.

Is Oral Sex… Sex?

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

I found myself engaged in a conversation with girlfriends, of different ages, discussing a topic that was sensitive and confusing while others thought nothing of it.  That day not only exposed the generational shift in thinking that has occurred around this topic, but there continues to be a deeply rooted ambivalence in our culture when it comes to talking about sex.

It was interesting to hear one gal’s adamant point of view that “biologically speaking” sex is between a male and female, involving penile and vaginal contact.  So, in her mind oral sex is not sex.  “You can’t get pregnant, you can’t get diseases like HPV or HIV AND you’re still a virgin.” Wow!  Really?

Unfortunately, this point of view is more prevalent than you might believe.  Not only does the definition of sex or what encompasses  “sex” vastly differ amongst people today, but how and why people engage in sex is open for huge interpretation.   Age, maturity, or experience in life certainly do not bring people closer to the right answer or add clarify to this question. Remember back in 1998 when President Bill Clinton claimed he had not perjured himself because he “did not have sexual relations with that woman” (Monica Lewinsky).  He had, in fact, had something else—oral sex.

Clearly there exists an emotional differential between oral and sexual penetration.

Back to the question…

Although you can not get pregnant, oral sex is risky and the most serious of STDs can be transmitted through this act.  Oral sex may seem to be a safer alternative, both physically and emotionally, and does not leave any scars unless you contact a STD.  Are you kidding?  Let’s be honest.  Oral sex is an intimate act.  In fact some people feel this act is more intimate than penetration.  Religion or faith also influences the answer.  A few faiths, like Christianity or Jehovah’s Witnesses, do not approve of oral sex because any action that results in “spilling a seed” other than for procreation is considered sinful.  People of both the Mormon and Jewish faith are encouraged to wait and engage in sexual activity after marriage.  But, in these two faiths oral sex is not considered shameful or sinful if consensual and confined to the married participants.

So is Oral Sex really sex?  Most will agree that what goes on behind closed doors between consenting people is acceptable and the details of sex stops there.  However, whether you are of Generation X, Y, Z or a Baby Boomer, male or female… Oral sex requires giving something of your self to another, with the potential for the same emotional repercussions as sexual intercourse if not carefully considered.  So based on this emotional point of view and the health considerations, oral sex is sex and one should stay mindful of taking all the precautions to avoid getting a disease or cancer.


Saturday, November 13th, 2010

We tell ourselves all the time that we should live in the moment and enjoy the present… But most of us find a reason to start living this way… Tomorrow.

Over the past few weeks, we lost 2 beautiful ladies – Maddy and Deanna… Both too young.  Our hearts go out to their families and friends during this difficult time.

You can plan for the future but Live for today.   Experience fully what you’re doing and listen to every word that someone is sharing with you.  Say what you want to say and don’t assume that you’ll have another opportunity.  Apologize for your behavior or any mistakes, don’t let your ego stand in the way.  And most important Love AND Cherish those around you… In case today is all you have.

Rats On a Wheel?

Monday, November 1st, 2010

Regarding a cure, I personally feel that supporting the cause is somewhat of a waste unless, people, legislators and industry take seriously the prevention side of the equation.  As long as we continue in ingest, inhale and absorb chemicals, preservatives, animal steroids and GMO’s there will be no cure.

Please do take offence to these comments, and I applaud your dedication to the cause, but with western lifestyle and environment as they are, the vicious cycle will continue until there is a major paradigm shift in the way people care for themselves prior to becoming ill…

~ Anonymous

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome in every situation and action.  Are you a believer in positive thinking?